Moving out after a breakup is a uniquely challenging experience, combining emotional stress with the practicalities of relocation. Cool Hand Movers, recently quoted in a Lifehacker article on this subject, offers professional guidance to ease your nerves around this stressful transition. We provide clear, practical advice for those navigating a move after a breakup.

How many people are breaking up and moving out?

While specific statistics on the percentage of moves due to breakups or divorces are not readily available, it's clear that changes in marital status do significantly influence moving decisions. According to the U.S. Census Bureau data, a change in marital status was a more common reason for moving in 2022 (6.1%) compared to 2021 (4.8%)​​. That figure includes both marriages and splits.

Breakup Pre-Move Planning

Before the boxes are packed, communication is key, especially when dividing shared belongings. It's essential to have a clear plan for which items will be moved, sold, or left behind. This allows movers to approach the situation with extra sensitivity.

Deciding Who Moves

• In some cases, legal and financial considerations play a significant role, especially if you shared a lease or jointly purchased property. It's advisable to consult with a legal professional to understand your rights.

• Both parties should plan for potential expenses such as deposits for a new rental, increased rent, moving service costs, and purchasing a new set of home essentials.

Divvying Items

Divvy up items in writing. An email or casual handwritten list can be helpful in referring back to and avoiding conflict.

Label items that are leaving the unit. If both former partners are leaving, label with different color tape or markers so that you and your movers have clarity on what is going where.

Hiring Movers

Don’t feel obligated to tell your movers about your situation, but it may help if you think the situation could be contentious.

• Find a reliable team using word of mouth and online reviews. The last thing you need in this moment is an inexpert team adding drama and confusion to move day.

• Moving is always comprised of a number of tasks. Identify which services you’ll need to get it all done. If there are pieces for disposal or donation, find a team who can help with that as well. If you’re not sure of where you’ll land yet, storage can be a solid temporary or long-term solution.

Frequently asked questions about breakup moves

Moving Day Strategies

• The day of the move is often the most challenging. Staying organized can significantly reduce stress.

• If privacy is a concern, discuss with your movers keeping your new address confidential from an ex who might be on the premises.

• Make sure your movers walk through your old apartment before you depart for the new location to ensure that all of the correct items have been loaded into the truck.

• More moving day tips and guides, including moving with pets.